Soulcentric Mentor,
Relationship & Intimacy Guide

As a mentor and guide, it’s not my job to give you answers.
I will help you find the right questions.

I won’t fix or save you, I will give you tools, skills, and support so that you can find the solutions that are right for you.

Whether you come with longing for a more satisfying relationship with your body and your pleasure, challenges in sex, intimacy, and relationships, or a desire to move past patterns and trauma, we work together to get to the roots. I won’t offer you superficial solutions; together we will dive into the depths to get to the heart of the matter so that you can create true and lasting transformation.

We do more than talk, we get experiential. We run experiments with body, breath, mind, space, touch, and connection to get first-hand, real-time, in-the-moment information. And then we run more to practice applying small adjustments that can change your world.

We slow down. And then we slow down some more. Taking the time to truly notice all the layers, stories, expectations, and assumptions that are running in you so that you have the space and freedom to choose rather than react.

We emphasize and nourish what’s already well in you, while we uproot what isn’t, helping you orient toward pleasure and wellness so that you can create the relationships, experiences, and pleasure that you long for from wholeness rather than wound.

This path is simple, but not easy. It’s a series of small steps, with the occasional leap or bound. And always, it goes at your pace, with my encouragement and reflection. We will use and integrate all of you – body, heart, mind, and soul – so that you can go into your life with ever more of yourself.

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attention is the beginning of devotion
attention is the beginning of devotion

I heard on a podcast a while back that if you are interrupted while you’re in the middle of something it takes 23 minutes to get back to the level of focus you were at before the interruption. 23 minutes! And that’s if you aren’t interrupted again. I imagine most-if-not-all of us are living in a state of continual disruption, unable to fully absorb ourselves in whatever it is we are doing.

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your body is a doorway
your body is a doorway

Your body is a doorway, a threshold into these other ways of knowing. Your erotic pleasure can lead you into encounters with your soul. No one ever told me this; I stumbled upon it accidentally in the way that I so often do. The possibility that my pleasure and orgasm could be about more than connection with another human being, that it could connect me with the depths of soul and belonging that I so desperately longed for rang a bell in me that has not stopped since.

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masturbation as activism
masturbation as activism

In a world where facts are disregarded; where questionable, often fake news is swallowed whole by the President himself, and credible news is accused of being fake; where there is little agreement on what the most pressing concerns are; and where we seem to be more interested in ranting and raving on social media than in hearing the perspectives of our opponents, leading to exponentially increasing divisiveness, how do we get to the root of it all and enact real, lasting, meaningful change?

Masturbate.

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know grief, know pleasure
know grief, know pleasure

Instead, a strand of grief winds intimately around one of pleasure forming a single indistinguishable thread that becomes a part of the fabric of my being.

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